Advice?

[pockets]

I need advice on how to stay out of the friend zone and being "one of the guys." Don't get me wrong I normally think it's cool to be "one of the guys" cause I'm a tomboy and like building things, fishing and what not. But I really, really like this guy I use to work with and fear I might be getting pushed into the "one of the guys" friend zone by him and I don't want that. Please give me advice guys

[BFEB]

Flirt your ass off. I know its difficult, but u gotta be different with the guy you like than the rest of the crew. Then again u could just be straight up with the dude and tell him you're interested. It's kind of like a band aid. Better to just rip it off and get the hard part done with rather than continually torturing yourself for an extended period of time. Most guys I know would appreciate the heads up and if he's not into you like that there's plenty of good dudes out there.
Also I remember when I figured out that being told NO wasn't the end of the world I got considerably more dates/hook ups just from the confidence I exuded.
Hell I was stuck in the friend zone for a year with my ol lady even after telling her I wanted to be more. It didn't happen for me then, but guess who just gave me a random call one nite a few years later and is now my absolutely favorite pain in the ass and the mother of my amazing son.
Basically what I'm saying is it'll all work out one way or another. You just can't be so scared to put yourself out there that you end up missing out on something potentially amazing.

[Jersey_Joe]

Great write Danny.


Honesty. Tell em. Never know till u try. Plenty of fish in the sea if it doesn't go the way u would like

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Didn't know pockets was a chick. Lol. That's awesome. Glad to have u in the forum.

[pockets]

Well thank you both especially you Danny. I guess I have to get my shyness out and just go for it cause I've already flirted quite a bit and he has flirty back and shown interest. So I just get my guts together and go for it by the sounds of it right?

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And Danny its cool it worked out for you and your lady and congrats on the son. Son's are a blast!

[BFEB]

Thanks! Ya he's awesome. A smaller better looking version of myself lol. Even tho he only says a few words and a phrase or two I can already tell he's way to much of a smart ass like me.

[RhinoZ24]

I need advice on how to stay out of the friend zone and being "one of the guys." Don't get me wrong I normally think it's cool to be "one of the guys" cause I'm a tomboy and like building things, fishing and what not. But I really, really like this guy I use to work with and fear I might be getting pushed into the "one of the guys" friend zone by him and I don't want that. Please give me advice guys

A girl in the friend zone? What??? Haha. Sorry, I had to. But seriously, it's just what Dan and Joe said, tell him. I was always the shy guy back in high school, I tried and got rejected a few times. I realize now I missed a few good opportunities back then cause I was too shy and they didn't give any signals. I got led on and used by a girl my sophomore year just so she could get back together with her ex. F***ed my confidence for a while. The hardest part is the girl not saying anything or giving any signals. It helps the guy a lot when you do. He probably likes you if he's been flirting back, but he may be a little shy or unsure whether to make a move. So just tell him or make it very obvious you want to be more than friends. My girlfriend did that my Senior year, and a year and 8 months later we're still together lol. Also if I may add, some guys like the tomboy thing, my girlfriend is a slight tomboy which is why we're so happy together, she likes most everything I do, the outdoors, camping, hiking, cars, music, etc., and girly when I need her to be lol. It's better when you have more in common.

[pockets]

Yes, a girl in the friend zone as twilight zone as that is. Lol

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I'm not good at being girly I never have been. I actually had a boyfriend break up with me cause I wasn't "girly enough." Which I think is stupid.

[Jersey_Joe]

Lol. It happins. You'll b fine girl. Don't sweat the small ish ya know?

[pockets]

Yeah it's just I get all shy style around guys I really like. I think I'm going to call him tonight and tell him. Well if I can stop being all girl with no guts about it that is. And thank you all for your advice and support. You guys are cool!

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Well I just called him... he said he'd possibly be willing to go on a date with me but nothing to serious cause he just got out of a relationship...he's going to call me back later to talk about it. So now I just got to cross my fingers.

[RhinoZ24]

Yeah it's just I get all shy style around guys I really like. I think I'm going to call him tonight and tell him. Well if I can stop being all girl with no guts about it that is. And thank you all for your advice and support. You guys are cool!

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Well I just called him... he said he'd possibly be willing to go on a date with me but nothing to serious cause he just got out of a relationship...he's going to call me back later to talk about it. So now I just got to cross my fingers.

Don't sweat it, I'm sure it'll work out.

[pockets]

Thanks I sure hope so cause he seems like a salmon rather then a carp if you know what I mean.

[Jersey_Joe]

Lol. Where u guys from?

[pockets]

Utah

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Where are you from?

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Well if it doesn't work out like I hope. I'll just have to hope it doesn't create awkwardness and that he can stay in my life as a friend. I've come to a conclusion years ago that it's better to have someone in your life as a friend then to not have them in your life at all...

[Jersey_Joe]

Nice. I bout my fitty in Layton. Love Utah.

I'm from New Jersey

[pockets]

Cool so did move to Utah or do you live in New Jersey still?

[Jersey_Joe]

No I've always been here. I was visiting a friend in the Air Force at the time and I saw the truck of my dreams so I bought it while I was there and drove it cross country home. Twas a great trip

[pockets]

Awesome! So what do you think of the Utah mountains?

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Well it's not looking good for me in the relationship department :'(

[RhinoZ24]

Aww sorry to hear that, we can always take him for a ride if you know what I mean lol. Scare him good haha jk.

[pockets]

Haha it's ok he just got a hold of me he had a late night at work and fell asleep. He apologized and promises to call tomorrow and he added a smile face which means there might still be some hope. I explained to him in text that I understand taking things slowly besides I don't want to rush **** that's how I end up hurt and in trouble

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I appreciate the offer on taking him for a ride though.

[RhinoZ24]

Haha no worries, I'm not too far away in CA lol. And hopefully it works out for you tomorrow.

[pockets]

Lol thanks me too cause I'm pretty sure this guys a keeper. And I'd really like a keeper instead of some douchbag prick who cheats and threatens to beat me like a few boyfriends I have had in the past. Only one of them was ever stupid enough to put their hands on me. I beat the s**t out of him for it and then kicked his ass out.

[pockets]

This pretty much describes me in a nutshell

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[pockets]

And its to small to read go figure

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What it says is:
Love yourself you're worth it!
Doesn't wear make up
Plays baseball
doesn't dress girly
Can be your best friend
Or your worst enemy
knows her flaws
Can be extremely sweet
Or extremely harsh
Has extra stuffing
Protects
Fights
Cries
Laughs
Is of raw beauty
You're unique embrace that!

And around the outer petals it says beautiful

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And the guy I'm chasing after:
Is from the school of hard-knocks
Apologizes
Shows emotion
Works to better himself
doesn't judge
Is a good dad
Responsible
caring
Mature
funny
Hard working
down to earth
I can be myself around

Hopefully this helps you understand my insanity lol

[Jersey_Joe]

Awesome! So what do you think of the Utah mountains?

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Well it's not looking good for me in the relationship department :'(

I loved em. It was pretty cool skiin and boarding in a t shirt. But it was beutiful. I love Utah

[pockets]

The mountains are my favorite.

[Jersey_Joe]

Loved em especially the part where we were climbing them with the trucks and mine had a temp tag. Lol. An was pullin Chevys up. Lol. Was a great trip fer sure. Love it there

[Jersey_Joe]

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This is where I purchased my truck. Didn't have the heart to take it off just cause of the story how I got it lol

[pockets]

Happy happy happy dance :) he likes me back. Hehe I did it thank you all who gave advice and support. You guys freaking rock!!! :D

[BFEB]

Just remember this when I run for president. I'll need all the votes I can get lol

[pockets]

Loved em especially the part where we were climbing them with the trucks and mine had a temp tag. Lol. An was pullin Chevys up. Lol. Was a great trip fer sure. Love it there

That's awesome!

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Just remember this when I run for president. I'll need all the votes I can get lol

I will and you have my vote for sure!

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I'm so excited!!! I get the salmon they get the carp hehe. For once in my life I win.

[RhinoZ24]

Haha, you sound like a high school girl now lmao. Congrats though!

[pockets]

I can't help it damn it. I've been single for almost 2 years. And now an amazing guy I'm interested in is interested back. So I can't help but to be excited cause his what I've been looking for. Not only is he kickass but his hot too.

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And thanks

[RhinoZ24]

Oh dear...lol

[pockets]

What are you oh dearing?

[RhinoZ24]

The and the he's hot part lol. We already have the official hot chick thread on here, now we're gunna see a hot guy thread lol.

[pockets]

Damn skippy lol jk

[RhinoZ24]

Lol, I'm afraid to look in the off topic part now lmao.

[pockets]

Lmfao don't be I don't need to make a hot guy thread cause I got the best hot guy and he's pleanty good enough for me.

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And I'm not sharing my eye candy with you lol

[RhinoZ24]

Lmfao don't be I don't need to make a hot guy thread cause I got the best hot guy and he's pleanty good enough for me.

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And I'm not sharing my eye candy with you lol

Damn, I know Dan and Joe have been waiting to see some hot guys on here lmao jk.

[pockets]

Ok well this is for you fellas then

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[pockets]

I'll share this eye candy cause its not my awesome hot fella your going to chock the chicken too. Lol jk

[RhinoZ24]

I'll share this eye candy cause its not my awesome hot fella your going to chock the chicken too. Lol jk

Lmao oh God that was funny lol. Better keep him away from the two mentioned above haha jk.

[pockets]

Lmao I have a mean right and left hook, but then again a poke to the eyeballs would hurt them more just saying. Lol jk

[RhinoZ24]

Personally I like to think of my truck as a weapon. If anyone ever made a move on my girl they would be answering to 5,000 lbs. of American steel lol. Well after I beat the s*** out of them too of course.

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I get your jealousy thing though. My girlfriend was over the other week and I left her my computer when I went to take a shower. She wrote me a little cute girly note that I discovered a few days later and she said how 3 guys whistled at her when she was walking over to my house. I'm glad she's looking good and getting attention, but it made me want to find and punch those guys in the face lol.

[pockets]

Lol yeah I don't share well. lucky enough for me though my fella is only very interested in me :) and any bitch tries to make a move when they've been told then they're going to meet my ugly side and trust me know one wants that

[RhinoZ24]

Haha I wouldn't doubt that

[pockets]

Good cause doubting that can be dangerous.

[RhinoZ24]

I'll remember that next time so see your man and try to make a move on him lol.

[pockets]

I plan on making a move on him lol

[RhinoZ24]

I plan on making a move on him lol

I don't wanna know lol.

[pockets]

You brought it up. So I was just saying.

[RhinoZ24]

I didn't bring that up haha

[pockets]

I'll remember that next time so see your man and try to make a move on him lol.

You did↑

[RhinoZ24]

Not the moves your probably referring to lol

[pockets]

Oh oops hehe

[RhinoZ24]

Yeah, lol. You keep those moves between you and him haha.

[pockets]

I planned on that. I have no intentions on telling you about that.

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This is random but you should make sure to complement your lady especially if she's saying she's getting whistled at.

[RhinoZ24]

I try to lol.

[pockets]

That's good and the reason I said that is cause ladies tend to be funny about such things and if other guys tend to notice them more then their man they tend to think their man isn't paying attention that's why it's important to notice when she's wearing her hair differently or dressed up nice etc.

[RhinoZ24]

I got that part down lol. But thanks for the advice.

[pockets]

Really? I'm impressed most guys don't. Hell most of them don't even know its important. So kudos to you!

[RhinoZ24]

Haha yeah thanks.

[BFEB]

Wow I work my ass off for a couple of days and I check the forum to see the funny man say I'm into dudes? I know whose special boots just got moved to the top of the list. Lol jk

[pockets]

Lol don't worry I know its rhino whoes into dudes and he was using you to cover cause he wanted to see hot guys. Lol jk

[BFEB]

That crafty little guy lmao

[pockets]

Touché

[RhinoZ24]

Wow I work my ass off for a couple of days and I check the forum to see the funny man say I'm into dudes? I know whose special boots just got moved to the top of the list. Lol jk

Finally, I'm first on somebody's list lmao jk.

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Lol don't worry I know its rhino whoes into dudes and he was using you to cover cause he wanted to see hot guys. Lol jk

Yup you caught me, my girlfriend is just a cover up...not.

[pockets]

Lol it's ok and hey I have a really cute gay friend that's looking... lol jk

[RhinoZ24]

Lol it's ok and hey I have a really cute gay friend that's looking... lol jk

Uh yeah...no lol sorry. Nothing in the pooper for me haha.

[pockets]

Lol that's when you yell its an Exit only EXIT ONLY!!

[RhinoZ24]

That's all it is lol

[pockets]

Yes, yes it is.

[RhinoZ24]

Damn straight

[pockets]

Very straight lol

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Or at least I am :)

[RhinoZ24]

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